After speaking to a few revert friends, I realised that many of us go through the same stuff on and off. Sometimes ordeals with family, sometimes with friends, sometimes born muslims and sometimes simply with random someones who find out we have reverted to Islam. Here are some of the things we reverts often get to hear, so much that now we have perhaps memorized the responses!
DISCLAIMER: I am aware that most of these questions are asked in complete innocence by people unaware of the answers, out of curiosity and they don’t know that we have been answering it already to hundreds. Also, we welcome questions rather than prejudices and prefer being asked if it helps to remove preconceived notions. This post is written in a light mood and is meant to spread humour. We love you all. Please laugh and pass.
1) WHY DID YOU ACCEPT ISLAM? THERE IS SO MUCH VIOLENCE IN IT.
Umm yeah and I am that psycho person with a violent streak within. I am the one responsible for the dead dog down the lane and with Islam my search to justify my hunger for blood ended. In fact, right now right here I am looking at my next prey sitting in front of me!**
Duh! Please no. 🙂 The immediate response is “Why are all terrorists muslims then?”. Well, I think you need to have a more careful look at your newspapers to see whether actually every crime is committed by a muslim? And hey, if you really want to remember the acts of some lunatics on 9/11 and make the lives of muslim civilians miserable, then why do you choose to forget the KKK, World Wars or wars by Ashoka?
Dearest, we are 1 in every 5 in this world. If the Quran really demanded us to kill, you think killing just 4 would be so difficult for us and in that case, (if you are a non-muslim), would you be sitting there alive and asking me this question?**
2) WHY DO YOU WEAR THE HIJAB WHEN MY BORN MUSLIM FRIENDS DON’T?
Ummm…because I want to obey Allah! We cannot be liable for what every person with a muslim name does. 😀 I mean, some don’t even know fundamentals of Islam. So if there is a terrorist planting bombs or a woman wearing a bikini, and they have a muslim sounding name am I supposed to have a telepathic connection with them once I accept Islam?**
No? Ummmm….then how would I know why they do what they do? I can only tell you why I do what I do! If you assume that every muslim has the superpower to read each other’s mind, well then you are mistaken. 🙂 We function just as you do.
“But they say it is a choice. It is not compulsory”. Ahem. Fortunately, it is compulsory and written in the Quran. Reasons are many (we shall deal with them in future In Shaa Allah), and one who understands the wisdom behind it is blessed SubhanAllah. May Allah guide us all.
3) DO YOU HAVE A MUSLIM BOYFRIEND?
No, I don’t. In this matter my heart goes out to them who have muslim husbands or are going to marry a muslim man soon In Shaa Allah. People easily conclude the reason for their reversion is marriage/ love. Uhh. Sadly, even though people marry muslims, they have a brain of their own.
Please read an amazing blog by thefitmuslimgirl on this topic:
4) DO YOU REALLY PRAY 5 TIMES? EVEN MY MUSLIM FRIENDS DON’T.
Please my friend please. It is a torture to compare my choices with your muslim friends! 😥
Well yes, I do because I believe I am blessed to have been chosen to be His servant. I am blessed to understand the concept of pure monotheism and accept it. I am grateful and salah(namaz/ prayer) is one of the pillars of Islam. Scholars unanimously agree that one who doesn’t pray is kuffar. Isn’t it wierd to choose to become a muslim and then again do deeds to get back to kuffarism?
Another statement that I get is “people do it after 50″. Ummmm, sad enough, deeds are recorded from the time we hit puberty. I didn’t know there was a special agreement between you and Allah that you will live beyond 50.**
5) HUMANITY IS THE ONLY RELIGION. WHY CONVERT?
Humanity is a part of religion. Humanity is a part of human nature. Religion is to teach you whom to worship. Religion is to connect you spiritually with your Maker, your Lord, your Creator. It is about worshipping the one and only God. Every religion preaches humanity but please do not mix humanity with religion.
It is like we put sugar in cakes then we say, “sugar is only cake. Why eat cakes?”. I hope that makes sense.
6) I HAVE HEARD THAT A HUSBAND CAN BEAT HIS WIFE? WHAT WILL YOU DO?
*Poker face* No he can’t. In fact, in Islam even beating your own child is not an arbitrary right! There are stringent guidelines as to when you can beat them (in case of extreme disobedience). Beating on the face of a child is prohibited and to correct them with love is always given a priority.
Then you say one can beat his wife? You cannot even uproot a plant in Islam without a valid reason (not even during wars), does it even sound logical that a religion will prohibit you from uprooting trees but will command hitting humans. No. Humans, animals, plants everyone is to be treated with kindness and the epitome of kindness was our Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) who was the most kind to his wives.
7) WHY DO MUSLIMS WORSHIP THE KAABA (BLACK BOX)?
Islam is a pure monotheistic religion. Muslims worship only God. Muslims worship only the Creator and not the creation. The definition of a Muslim is one who submits to the will of God. The will of God is clearly told to us via Qur’an and hadiths.
So what is the black box you ask? It is a symbol of unity for Muslims all over the world to face and pray. Also, it is a pilgrimage site for Muslims. We do not worship it.
8) WHY DON’T YOU CHOOSE SOME OTHER RELIGION WHICH IS NOT SO TABOOED? SAY “XYZ” OR “ABC”.
*Chuckles*, I am not playing religion religion here. Nor am I merely in the whims of shifting religion. I would rather have stuck to my birth religion if I wanted to play safe and remain away from the tabooed religion. 😀
9) THINK ABOUT YOUR PARENTS MAN. YOU DON’T LOVE THEM? OR PARENTS COME FIRST, GOD WILL NEVER BE HAPPY IF YOU MAKE YOUR PARENTS UNHAPPY.
So, you say I don’t love my parents because I chose a new religion? I am actually rofling at that thought. So you are saying you have obeyed each and every decision of theirs eh? You didn’t date ever, you don’t like a girl your parents might not approve, you never had alcohol, you never lied to them and hanged out with friends, you never ate that junk without their permission, you never lied that you were studying but you were actually playing video games, you didn’t sneak to watch tv amidst exams when they were out, you didn’t lie about your teacher being strict whereas in reality you didn’t get marks because you didn’t study, you didn’t study to be an xyz where they wanted you to become a doctor or engineer, you didn’t refuse to wear that Tshirt your mom wanted you to wear, you didn’t yell at your mom when there was no reason to etc etc.
So you mean from the day you hit puberty, you have obeyed everything that your parents have asked you to? And anyone who thinks differently from his parents (possibly because they are a separate individual) doesn’t love them? Then I guess 99.9999% people do not love their parents. Why do I stand out?
And you seem to be very concerned about my parents. Care to adopt them? 😉 *giggles*
FYI, Islam makes me care and love my parents even more. It has made me more sensitive towards my mom and my parents have noticed that I have mellowed down a lot towards them. Happy? Geeeeeeeeee.. smile! 😀
10) TAKE IT EASY. YOU ARE FOLLOWING IN EXTREME.
I am only following. How does my following anything make it extreme? Just because it is not the same as the way others choose to live, how is it extreme as long as it makes me happy and doesn’t harm a third person. If there is freedom of clothing, then my choice is hijab, if there is freedom of livelihood my choice is halal, if there is freedom to worship (or to not worship) my choice is my 5 salah(namaz) offered only to God, if there is freedom of life then this is the way I choose to live.
If you truly believe in living life at your own terms, if you are my well wisher and if you truly believe in being free from oppression, you would want me to be happy and not want me to live according to your notion of “happy”.
**Disclaimer 2: these statements are merely told to add humour/ sarcasm. They are not meant to be taken seriously or personally. Any offence is not intentional. I am not a dog killer, animal welfare please spare me! 😉 neither is there meant to be any threat to anyone in any of the answers. May good sense prevail.