Excerpts from my life

The Okay Muslim


I was recalling the time when being amongst muslims was something I used to crave for. Subhanallah, how beautifully Allah azza wajal accepts our du’as. Looking back at the transition from pre-marriage to being married, makes me realise how beautifully Allah plans our life. Indeed, we need to just let it go easy at times and leave the reins of our lives. When do we realise that we can never controll everything. On the contrary, it is easier to submit.

However, being amongst muslims (Indian muslims to be specific), has come with its share of disappointments. When I was alone, I assumed muslims would be something close to what the Qur’an and Hadiths asks them to be. I assumed there would be those who do not lie, those who observe purdah, those who are respectful, honorable, immaterial and intelligent. Surprisingly, this breed is just a minority. Negligible minority.

The momins are missing!

“(such believers are) the repentant, the worshippers, the praisers (of Allah), the travelers(for His cause), those who bow and prostrate(in prayer), those who enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, and those who observe the limits (set by) Allah. And give good tidings to the believers” [At-Tawba, 112]


And then there are those who are embrassed to be practising muslims. So, they choose to be “OK Muslims”. Allow me to tell you what an “ok muslim” is. An “OK Muslim” is one who-

  • is okay with his women not doing hijab
  • is okay with participating in and hosting intermixed events/ parties
  • is okay with working in banks and participating in Riba
  • is okay with having dogs as pets
  • is okay with praying qadha salah to attend someone more important
  • is okay with music
  • is okay with ignoring a command or two of Allah

but, he is

  • not okay with beard
  • not okay with niqab
  • not okay with educated women choosing to exit a mixed workplace

I met an Okay Muslim yesterday and only came back home very disheartened. Why is it that we are so ashamed of being what we are? Why is it that despite knowing how we should live, we choose to live how the society expects me to live? Thereby silently killing our fitrah- our inner self.

You, my friend, are the society. We live with assumptions. We assume that we will be better accepted if we shave of that beard. We assume that we will be proven modern if our women work discarding the hijab. We try to gain acceptibility by being like them. We dress like them, we dance like them, we talk like them and we think like them.

Why? Whose pleasure did you attain? Will the person stand by you on the day of judgment?

It is amusing how as trying-to-be-practising muslims we were carefully asked whether everyone in family was conservative. No, nobody is conservative. Everybody is just trying to be a practising muslim.

Isn’t fiqh meant to evolve with time? Being practising does not mean you are outdated. It means you are sticking to the first love of your life – Allah and the second love of your life-Rusool Allah.

“if we don’t evolve with time, then dunya me kaise chalega?(how will it work in dunya)“, I was asked.

-“we are in dunya merely for 60-70-80 years. If we do not stick to deen, akhirat me kaise chalega?”, was my reply. “Aakhirat is forever. We feel scared to bear the wrath of humans, how will be bear Allah’s wrath?.

We are always given a choice. Never can we say that I had to do it. It is upon us whether we choose that which is easy or that which is halal.

The Sahabis had a choice too: whether they join the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) in his struggle or they lead their lives their way. There were those who were guaranteed jannah by the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam). They had accepted Islam, they were steady and sincere in deen but did they ever mention that it is not their business? They were there, right there, for every opportunity to serve the deen of Allah. The times when the muslims were few and kuffars were many. They chose.

What choices do we make today? despite being almost 25% of the world’s population today, we make choices against Allah and His Rusool. On this date, we are not expected to fight battles, but our jihad are these small choices that we make. The minute struggles we have to face to be a momin.”

There was silence. Everyone sat thinking. All he had to say in the end was, “I do not know how I am. But I consider myself to be an Okay muslim. A person should be flexible. Perhaps, people who accept Islam by being convinced practise more. As for us, we are muslims by chance.”.

May Allah make us all better muslims. May we be loyal servants to be in absolute submission. Ameen


-a not so okay Muslim



“The believers are only those, when Allah was mentioned, feel fear in their hearts and when His verses were recited unto them, they (i.e) increase their faith; and they put their trust in their Lord (Alone)” [Surah Anfal: 2]


21 thoughts on “The Okay Muslim

  1. A refreshing post. I can relate how annoying it is to see majority born Muslims taking the deen for granted and not as a huge blessing that they are lucky to have been born with it.

    I hear such things as we are ‘modern Muslims’ or we are not ‘extreme Muslims’ to justify not wearing the hijab. I understand it may be hard for people but it just annoys me when they blame it on the deen and not on their own shortcomings.

    Another example of ‘modern Muslim mentality’ is dealing with interest. Yes it’s wide spread and no one bats an eyelid but that doesn’t mean you can justify it by saying everyone does it when there is an alternative. Always seek the alternative. Everybody is deep in sin but instead of feeling guilty they merely justify that it’s not a big deal since it’s so common. Really annoying.

    So thank you for this post it was refreshing!


  2. this was a wonderful post, JazakAllah khair, how ever there was an issue in it sis.
    is okay with having dogs as pets.
    this is very wrong conception in islam that Muslims are not allowed to have dogs. Read surah kahaf, the youngsters were saved guard by a dog out side the cave. Islam doesn’t have any issue with having dogs as your pet. It has only issue allowing them to the place of worships. our wrong conception has lead many muslims to throw stones at dogs for no reason. as far as I know from an authentic hadith is that a prostitute was only granted Jannah because she treated the dog properly.
    Me personally very afraid of dogs . but generally speaking it is ok to have dogs as your pet and treating them with love. but not allowing them to place of worships.

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    • Jazakallah Khair bro for your input and advice. However, my ijtihaad on this topic differs. I will share a few saheeh hadith with you which tells it is prohibited to keep dogs at home as pets except as watchdogs, hunting and for farms.

      Al-Bukhaari (2145) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever keeps a dog, a qiraat from his good deeds will be deducted every day, except a dog for farming or herding livestock.” 

      Muslim (2943) narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever keeps a dog, except a dog for herding livestock or a dog for hunting, a qiraat will be deducted from his good deeds each day.” ‘Abd-Allaah said: Abu Hurayrah said: Or a dog for farming. 

      Ibn Maajah (3640) narrated from ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or an image.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah. 

      There are more narrations on the same lines. Perhaps, you are trying to tell the same thing. But the rule is not limited to allowing dogs in place of salah, rather it is for the house in entirety except when kept as a security dog (hence the watchdog in Surah Kahf)

      Bro, however I do not support cruelty. Feeding street dogs and being kind to them are acts of reward in sha allah. Just because pigs are haram to eat, does not mean their existence is haram. This is jahilliyah and stupid

      We can differ in thoughts, no harm. May Allah keep us guided. Ameen

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      • yes, I was actually listening to Dr.Bilal Philips and Ustad nak , you are right in your opinion, thing is most of took things to the extreme and then do misbehave with the animals. I know how desi treat the street dogs and then i see people in west giving charity to heal the injured dog.
        but thanks for explaining it.

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  3. Alhamdulillah that you have been guided to Islam, and may Allah keep us all steadfast on Islam. I have been in the exact state over many years. One thing that I would like to inform you though, there might be some “okay muslims” who might end up practicing Islam way better than us, and have a very high rank in Jannah before they die, and may Allah protect us all from being among those who did every thing right that they were a hand span away from Jannah but their deeds towards their end made them go to Jahannum. Point being – don’t give up on anyone, make du’aa for them, be the reason that Allah selected to inspire them to Islam, who knows that might become a reason for your (our) elevation in Jannah. While doing that, remember there will only be a few who listen to you and not remain “okay muslims” … as we know .. “Khaleelam maa tashkuroon”..”Sullatum minal awwaleen wa khaleelum minal aakhireen”… “Khaleelam maa ta’alamoon” … Various ayat in the Quran where Allah azza wa jal states “but only a few” referring to the people of Jannah… on the other hand majority are referred when the discussion is about those who are lost “Wal Asr Innal Insaana la fee qusr”… Keep up inviting other to goodness, and do it through goodness . Wa’s Salaamu Alaikum

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  4. Let me say this is the first time in all these years of following your blog that while reading your post, I realized how blessed you are and how kind Allah Almighty has been in showing you His right path.
    You must have heard about plane crash in Pakistan and you must have heard about the sad demise of singer turned islamic scholar Junaid Jamshed in news. He and others have embraced martyrdom, the story of his transition is inspiring to read.
    Your blog post reminds of him.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and may Allah Almighty shower His blessings upon you and your family (Ameen)

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  5. Awesome piece! I am fed up of these okay Muslims. I was telling a few women choose HMC meat over HFA toh they were like… ye sab dekhte rahe toh we cab never eat outside, take it easy???
    Some cannot even forgo a burger for Allah (SWT)

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  6. Very true and more hurtful than hearing these same things from non Muslims. Muslims in India sure need a lot of Islamic makeover. As a revert I used to feel like I belong no where. Neither among Muslims (since we are not born into the community) nor my family but truth is we belong to Allah and if we are not His then we are actually neither here nor there. May Allah always guide us. Ameen.

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