I was recalling the time when being amongst muslims was something I used to crave for. Subhanallah, how beautifully Allah azza wajal accepts our du’as. Looking back at the transition from pre-marriage to being married, makes me realise how beautifully Allah plans our life. Indeed, we need to just let it go easy at times and leave the reins of our lives. When do we realise that we can never controll everything. On the contrary, it is easier to submit.
However, being amongst muslims (Indian muslims to be specific), has come with its share of disappointments. When I was alone, I assumed muslims would be something close to what the Qur’an and Hadiths asks them to be. I assumed there would be those who do not lie, those who observe purdah, those who are respectful, honorable, immaterial and intelligent. Surprisingly, this breed is just a minority. Negligible minority.
The momins are missing!
“(such believers are) the repentant, the worshippers, the praisers (of Allah), the travelers(for His cause), those who bow and prostrate(in prayer), those who enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, and those who observe the limits (set by) Allah. And give good tidings to the believers” [At-Tawba, 112]
And then there are those who are embrassed to be practising muslims. So, they choose to be “OK Muslims”. Allow me to tell you what an “ok muslim” is. An “OK Muslim” is one who-
- is okay with his women not doing hijab
- is okay with participating in and hosting intermixed events/ parties
- is okay with working in banks and participating in Riba
- is okay with having dogs as pets
- is okay with praying qadha salah to attend someone more important
- is okay with music
- is okay with ignoring a command or two of Allah
but, he is
- not okay with beard
- not okay with niqab
- not okay with educated women choosing to exit a mixed workplace
I met an Okay Muslim yesterday and only came back home very disheartened. Why is it that we are so ashamed of being what we are? Why is it that despite knowing how we should live, we choose to live how the society expects me to live? Thereby silently killing our fitrah- our inner self.
You, my friend, are the society. We live with assumptions. We assume that we will be better accepted if we shave of that beard. We assume that we will be proven modern if our women work discarding the hijab. We try to gain acceptibility by being like them. We dress like them, we dance like them, we talk like them and we think like them.
Why? Whose pleasure did you attain? Will the person stand by you on the day of judgment?
It is amusing how as trying-to-be-practising muslims we were carefully asked whether everyone in family was conservative. No, nobody is conservative. Everybody is just trying to be a practising muslim.
Isn’t fiqh meant to evolve with time? Being practising does not mean you are outdated. It means you are sticking to the first love of your life – Allah and the second love of your life-Rusool Allah.
“if we don’t evolve with time, then dunya me kaise chalega?(how will it work in dunya)“, I was asked.
-“we are in dunya merely for 60-70-80 years. If we do not stick to deen, akhirat me kaise chalega?”, was my reply. “Aakhirat is forever. We feel scared to bear the wrath of humans, how will be bear Allah’s wrath?.
We are always given a choice. Never can we say that I had to do it. It is upon us whether we choose that which is easy or that which is halal.
The Sahabis had a choice too: whether they join the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) in his struggle or they lead their lives their way. There were those who were guaranteed jannah by the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam). They had accepted Islam, they were steady and sincere in deen but did they ever mention that it is not their business? They were there, right there, for every opportunity to serve the deen of Allah. The times when the muslims were few and kuffars were many. They chose.
What choices do we make today? despite being almost 25% of the world’s population today, we make choices against Allah and His Rusool. On this date, we are not expected to fight battles, but our jihad are these small choices that we make. The minute struggles we have to face to be a momin.”
There was silence. Everyone sat thinking. All he had to say in the end was, “I do not know how I am. But I consider myself to be an Okay muslim. A person should be flexible. Perhaps, people who accept Islam by being convinced practise more. As for us, we are muslims by chance.”.
May Allah make us all better muslims. May we be loyal servants to be in absolute submission. Ameen
-a not so okay Muslim
“The believers are only those, when Allah was mentioned, feel fear in their hearts and when His verses were recited unto them, they (i.e) increase their faith; and they put their trust in their Lord (Alone)” [Surah Anfal: 2]