Excerpts from my life

The Vain Muslim Wedding- 1

 I finally get invited for a  muslim wedding. If you are belong to the indopak region, I am sure you are aware that the term muslim wedding is not synonymous with Islamic wedding. 

Weddings have never appealed to me. I think I suffer from agoraphobia. Crowds creep me out. Silence is precious
From the time of arrival, the wedding has been of amuse. Not only am I witnessing the “behind the scenes” of a muslim wedding for the first time, it is only the second time I am witnessing of any wedding at all. 

There is not much I have to do here. Therefore, I’ll do what I do the best- write. Here are my observations of the wedding:

1) Tresspassing Hijab: not a single person observes hijab. There are some who observe pseudo purdah- that is the purdah in markets but the moment you step into your destination, the hijabs/abaya/niqab comes off. It doesn’t matter whether there are males here. They are all “like your brothers”. Sufficient to make them your mahrams. 

No, do not frown. I was insisted to remove my plain looking hijab amidst the flashiness here because it was after all the wedding season! The men are after all your brothers. 

Funnily, I was even informed of some new verses of the Qur’an which said that purdah is to be observed only from jeth (husband’s older brother) and not devar (husbands younger brother). Some more came around to say that Allah says if you accept someone as your brother from the core of your heart, before him it is permissible to be without purdah. 

We have some upcoming aalims in every Muslim household here. If I make a list here, the ulamas out there are surely gonna shy away. 
2) Gun point invitation– It wasn’t a normal ” please attend my daughter’s wedding” invitation. Invitations are more egotised. “If you do not come, then one day you might want me to come and I will avenge” OR “you don’t come to my daughter’s wedding, I won’t attend your daughters wedding”. Term it threats, warnings, blackmail or Indian way of expressing love. That is how it is . Your job leaves are over, you live 1000km away, you are broke or you are heavily pregnant. None of it matters. You don’t come implies you never wanted to in the first place. 
3) Oh All that Gold– woohooo!! So all the gold that you have stocked in your lockers in out. You can make out the status of a person by observing the number of gold rings on his wife’s fingers. There are thick rings, antique rings, fancy rings, heavy solid rings, big rings, small rings, rings with gemstones and those with none. 

And there are chains, necklaces, bangles , nose pins, anklets and XYZ ABC pqrstuvewxyz all in Gold!

You can feel those eyes piercing through the gold of another. And the ones with bulky gold have their bosoms swelling with pride.
4) All That Rush– The entire joint family is gathered into the family home. And everyoneeee has lot of work to do. Even if they do not have work they act like they’re busy and going crazy with the hectic schedule. Despite having wedding planners, caterers, decorators, there will be 50 people serving everything. 
5) Gossip– So much gossip. Who did what. Who is oh so rich. Did you see her dress. So and so fixed her daughter’s marriage with so and so. Those people are such creeps. I am the best person on earth. I am telling this because I wish good for you. 

And so much to catch up! Long time no see. Did your daughter in law conceive? Has it not been five years to her wedding? ABC already had three kids in four years. . 
6) Taunts– the best opportunity to steam out all that boiling blood. So you didn’t invite me for your wedding eh? Pass on the bitterest emotions with a sweet smile. The victim usually retorts back with an equally below the belt remark. If you observe conversations, you will realise who hates whom, who fears whom or the darkest mistakes in the life of a person on which she is frequently taunted. 
The twisted turning vain Indian Muslim wedding has a lot more interesting observations. A single post does not suffice. Let us follow up with a part two.

Excerpts from my life

She Speaks English!

It was a long journey. Husband and I had embarked the train and were going to be there for seven hours.
Journey has its own virtues. One thing I try to be conscious about when I am in public, that I represent my religion. Every mistake I do will be credited to the “how vain Muslims are” account and every impressive deed might help people to have a good perception of Islam. 
A family of 5 soon joined us in the compartment. Three kids and their parents. 

Watching younger generations always amuse you. I used to wonder as a kid why mum finds it so hard to figure the computer or smartphone out. Perhaps its the same reason why I find it hard to grasp their lingo and gadgets today. So much that I feel its unnecessary to waste time grasping it. Life is good without it as well. Just what mom must have thought. 

A while later, I could figure out that they were a Muslim family as well. The name of the son was Muhammad. They seemed to be a family of “okay Muslims“. 

Whenever I see the Okay Muslim, I cannot help remembering a statement my dad gave: “ even real Muslims don’t practise Islam like you do. You are overdoing it.” 

It is something disheartening. To see the absence of Sunnah from the lives of Muslims. The decreasing importance of Islam in children. The void that is filling our lives now. A void which comes when the heart has forgotten to fear and hope from Allah. When a muslim forgets what he has to be.
The time for salah approached, and husband combined salatul Maghreb and salatul Isha. 

– “Mom what is he doing?” , I heard an exclamation. 

-“He is praying beta”, comes a sincere soft reply. 
((Me *gawking* hainnnn??? Muslim kid asking what a man in Salah is doing? Some form of break dance eh?))

“He is so sincere mom. I have never seen someone pray even in train! He must not be missing even single namaz then”

*mom smugs*

-“Why should he? Especially when Allah has made prayer during travel so easy for you. You don’t have to pray the sunnah. The fardh is halved and you may even combine salatul zuhr and asr, and salatul Maghreb and Isha. There is no excuse to miss salah.” 

Did I just speak that aloud? 

Woopsie Daisy! 

*awkward silence*

I noticed the mother looking at me with an embarrassed smile. The child sitting and staring at me wide mouthed. Perhaps they realises that there are ears underneath the niqab and yeah, mouth as well. 

After the while the child when to the top berth of the train to sisters. Husband and I were on the lower berths. I could hear murmurs

-“dude, she speaks English ”

-“but she wears a niqab”

-“yeah but I heard her speaking English”

#confused kids.

Voila! I still have ears. I look at them and pass a smile. Seems they realised I heard them. 
I wonder what part of Islam has taught us that we need to shed a few  sunnahs to be better educated. Who do think is responsible for imparting this understanding to the non-muslims that only the outdated and uneducated adorn the hijab ordained by Allah? Is it the media or is it we Muslims ourselves?

I try to imagine the lives of the next generation. Running in the rat race. Confused. Despaired. The same void. A depressing life, which has been quoted as modern and the ultimate purpose of life. A life devoid of barakah. Abundant is everything but barakah. Because no matter what we do, if we do not know who be belong to… There is never the sense of being in the right place. 

Excerpts from my life, Islam

An Overview on Jinns.

Bismillahir  Rahmaanir  Raheem



Jinns  are  a  part  of  Allah’s  makhlooq.  Allah  created  them  before  humans  from  smokeless  flame  of  fire  (Al  Hijr,  26-27).  Ibn  Abbas  said,  “It  is  the  smokeless  flame  that  kills.”  Abdullah  ibn  Mas’ud  narrated  that  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  said  that  the  smokeless  flame  is  one  of  the  seventy  parts  of  the  smokeless  fire  from  which  Jinns  were  created  (Tafseer  ibn  Katheer).

Ibn  Abbaas,  Ikrimah,  and  others  interpret  marajin-min-nar,  to  be  the  utmost  severity  of  the  flame.  or  to  be  from  the  best  part  of  flame.  Imam  Nawawi  mentioned  in  his  explanation  to  Sahih  Muslim  that  the  smokeless  flame  mixed  with  blackness  of  fire  (Ibn  Katheer).



There  are  three  types  of  Jinn  (At-Tabarani  and  Al-Hakim):  

· one  that  can  fly,  

· one  in  form  of  snakes  and  dogs,  and  

· one  which  resides  and  roams  about  in  a  particular  locality.


In  a  narration  by  Ibn  Masood,  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  said  that  for  every  human  has  been  appointed  a  constant  jinn  companion  known  as  the  Qareen  (Muslim,  2814)  The  hadith  is  a  reference  to  the  fitnah  caused  its  whispers.  


Allah  subhana  wa  ta’ala  has  blessed  the  jinns  with  certain  powers  which  we  come  to  know  via  many  Qur’anic  verses  and  hadiths.  Few  of  them  are-

· Speed:  Jinns  can  move  from  one  place  to  another  very  fast.  The  tale  of  an  ifreet  has  been  narrated  in  Qur’an  who  promised  Sulayman  (alayhis  salam)  that  he  would  bring  the  throne  of  the  queen  of  Sheba  to  Jerusalem  faster  than  a  man  gets  up  from  his  seat  (An-Naml,  39-40).


· Invisibility:  Humans  cannot  see  Jinn  but  they  can  see  us  (Al-Ar’af,  27).  In  Surah  Al-A’raf,  Allah  warns  us  against  the  plot  of  Iblees  and  his  followers.  The  root  of  this  enmity  lies  from  the  time  of  Adam  (alayhi  salam).  It  was  the  plot  of  Iblees  which  expelled  Adam  (alayhi  salam)  from  Paradise  and  caused  his  privates  to  be  uncovered  (Ibn  Katheer).  


· Precedence  in  matters  of  space:  The  Jinns  used  to  approach  the  heaven  to  be  in  contact  with  it  and  eavesdrop  whatever  Allah  allowed  them  to  hear  from  the  news  of  heaven  (Al  Jinn,  8-9).


· Knowledge  in  building  and  other  crafts:  By  Allah’s  will  Prophet  Sulaymaan  ruled  over  Jinns  and  under  his  command  they  constructed  structures  like  Synagogues  and  statues,  basins  like  wells  and  boilers  built  into  the  ground  (Saba,  12-13).  It  may  also  be  estimated  that  they  have  ability  to  communicate  and  travel  wirelessly (Al-Ashqar,  1998)


· Ability  to  change  forms-  Several  narrations  have  been  recorded  where  shaytaan  took  human  forms.  In  the  battle  of  Badr,  shaytaan  took  form  of  Suraaqa  ibn-Malik  and  promised  victory  to  the  enemies.  Allah  thereby  revealed  the  following  verses-  “And  when  Satan  made  their  deeds  seem  fair  to  them  and  said:  No  one  of  mankind  can  conquer  you  this  day,  for  I  am  your  protector.”  (al-Anfaal,  48).


In  a  narration  by  Abu  Hurayrah,  shaytaan  entered  his  home  on  two  consecutive  days  to  steal  only  to  be  caught  red  handed.  On  being  caught  the  third  time,  he  plead  to  be  spared  and  advised  Abu  Hurayrah  to  recite  Ayatul  Kursi  each  night  and  a  guardian  from  Allah  would  guard  him.  The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  said  that  this  thief  was  the  shaytaan  who  told  the  truth,  though  he  is  a  liar  (Bukhari).


· Ability  to  flow  in  blood  of  humans:  An  incident  has  been  narrated  in  the  two  Sahihs  where  once  two  sahabis  saw  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  with  his  wife  and  he  clarified  that  it  was  his  wife  because  shaytaan  flows  in  humans  like  blood.  Thus,  shaytaan  may  cast  evil  thoughts  in  their  minds.




Allah  mentions  in  Surah  Al-Isra  verse  65  that  the  jinns  have  no  control  over  His  (subhana  wa  ta’ala)  bondsmen.  Iblees  swore  to  lead  mankind  astray  except  those  who  are  the  perfect  slaves  of  Allah  (Al-Hijr,  39-40)

Yet,  we  see  Muslims  being  overpowered  by  Shaytaan.  This  happens  due  to  their  own  sins  (Al-Haakim  and  Al-Baiqahi)



The  jinns  dwell  on  earth  like  mankind.  They  are  usually  found  in  ruins,  barren  lands  and  toilets.  Thus,  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  asked  us  to  seek  refuge  in  Allah  from  male  and  female  jinns  when  entering  toilets  (Al-Bukhaari,  142).  We  also  learn  that  there  are  both  male  and  female  jinns.  The  Qur’an  describes  spouses  of  paradise  to  be  untouched  by  both  men  and  jinn  (Ar-Rahmaan,  60).  Like  humans,  they  marry,  procreate,  have  relatives  and  die.  Similarly,  there  are  both  muslim  and  non-muslim  jinns  (Al-Jinn,  14-15).  Additionally,  they  have  different  levels  of  righteousness  and  taqwa  too  (Al-Jinn,  11)



Since  Jinns  can  see  us,  while  we  cannot,  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  on  many  occasions  asked  to  seek  protection  from  them.  Jinns  can  cast  evil  eye  on  humans.  The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  once  saw  a  maid  with  a  black  spot  on  her  face  and  asked  her  to  be  treated  by  ruqya  since  a  jinn  had  casted  evil  eye  on  her  (Bukhari).  

The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  sought  protection  from  jinns  by  reciting  Surah  al-Falaq  and  an-Naas  (Tirmidhi  3/266)  

Allah  says  in  the  Qur’an  to  seek  refuge  from  shaytaan’s  whisperings  and  from  him  coming  in  proximity  to  us  (Al-Mu’minoon,  97-98).

Reciting  Bismillah  before  entering  home,  entering  washrooms,  sexual  intercourse,  meals,  changing  clothes  and  drinking  water  also  protects  us  from  them.  We  have  been  commanded  to  bring  children  indoors,  shut  doors  and  water  containers  with  the  name  of  Allah  after  sunset  and  to  put  off  lights  at  bedtime  to  prevent  evil  from  shayateen  (Bukhari  10/88)  

Lastly,  a  person  with  strong  imaan  will  always  overpower  a  jinn  if  they  were  to  wrestle.  It  has  been  reported  by  Al-Daarimi  (3247)  that  the  shaytaan  comes  out  of  the  house  like  a  donkey  breaking  wind  and  does  not  return  until  next  morning  


1. Al-Qur’an

2. Tafseer  ibn  Katheer  available  at  


3. As-Sa’di,  Abdur-Rahmaan,(2004)  Tafseer  As-Sa’di  part  29,  Riyadh:  Darussalam

4. Al-Ashqar,  Dr.  Umar,(1998)  The  World  of  the  Jinns  and  Devils,  Available  at  www.kalamullah.com

5. Bali,  Wahid  abl-al  Salam,  How  to  Protect  Yourself  from  Shaytaan  and  Jinn,  2nd  Ed.,  London,  Al-Firdous  Ltd,  available  at  


6. Al-Quahtani,  Sa’id  bin  Wahf,  Fortress  of  Muslim,  Darussalam

7. Al-Bukhari,  Muhammad,  (870),  Sahih  Bukhari  available  at  www.sunnah.com

8. Al-Naysaburi,  Muslim,  Sahih  Muslim  available  at  www.sunnah.com

9. As-Sijistani,  Abu  Dawud  Sulaymaan,  Sunan  Abi  Dawud,  available  at  www.sunnah.com

10. At-Tirmidhi,  Abu  Isa  Muhammad,  Jami  at-Tirmidhi,  available  at  www.sunnah.com

11. The  world  of  Jinn  and  Shaytaan,  https://islamqa.info/en/2340


Islam, Random

There is No Escape

Those little moments you spend with your best companion- You. The one who has been there through all your ups and down. The only human who knows the storm within you. Every chaos and serenity that you’ve witnessed. Are you comfortable being alone with this person? To just sit in silence with her for fifteen minutes. With no gadget, with no book, without a piece of paper or even lights.

It is not an unknown feeling. Perhaps it is one we run away from. Our innate nature (fitrah) knows where things have gone wrong. Every little you do wrongly but hide it from the world, but it knows. That little lie, those wrongly fulfilled desires, those pangs of envy, the buts of superiority, the innocent statement you made against that person or the labour whom you bargained to underpay. It tells you that you will eventually be caught.

What will you do?

Run. Rush… Rush into Sujood. Dive into the pool of mercy. A Sujood that will piece the guilt right through your heart. That will drip down all that burdens you. Plead. There is no better way than to accept.

The acceptance before your Maker will relieve you. Make dua’a for forgiveness of the harmed. Make dua’a for the ummah. Make dua’a for yourself.

Just be there.. until serenity blankets you.

and enjoy the beautiful company of you again. Each day. It’s a date.

“And all of you beg Allah to forgive you, O believers, that you may be successful”. (Qur’an, 24:31)

IOU Assignments- informations., Islam

Kibr-A Barrier for the Student of Knowledge

KIBR- A Barrier for the Student of Knowledge

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem


Refined manners suit a student of knowledge. Etiquette of a student of knowledge includes :


  • Forbearance: that he is not reckless or quick to retaliate
  • Abstinence
  • Patience with common folk
  • Submission to truth and
  • Expecting reward from Allah alone (Ibn Uthaymeen).


Whoever Allah wishes good for, He gives him knowledge of deen. Therefore, students of knowledge must acknowledge this blessing (Muhammady, 2015)


Lower your wing of humility to Allah

A person setting out to gain knowledge should know that it is a form of worship. His heart must be flood with desire of gaining Allah’s pleasure and humble submission towards Him. This, will make him amongst the honorable ones in both worlds (bin-Baaz, 2014). Slightest pride leads to rejection of worship (Ibn-Hanbal, 2014).


In a narration of Abu Dawood, Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) states that a person who seeks knowledge for materialism rather than to see the face of Allah shall not smell the fragrance of paradise.


Kibr that openly opposes and negates Eemaan results in the banishment of the one who holds it from entering al-Jannah as is found in Allaah’s statement:

“And your Lord said: “Invoke Me, I will respond to your (invocation). Verily! Those who scorn (yastakbiroon – Have kibr) My worship, they will surely enter Hell in humiliation!” [Surah Ghaafir: 60]

A form of humility before Allah is to fear him and establish Tawheed. Allah promises the muttaqeen forgiveness and great reward. Some salafs termed fear of Allah as absolute knowledge. Ibn Masood (radiallahu anhu) stated that fear of Allah suffices as ilm whereas absence is sufficient ignorance. Possession of ilm is proportional to taqwa. Indeed, Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) was the most fearful of Allah with the maximum taqwa (Bukhari).



Make du’aa for ‘ilm:

Allah promises that He will respond to calls of his servant. To the lowest heaven He comes each night in the last one-third to respond to our supplications (Bukhari)


Ibn Tayyimah used to supplicate by pleading, ““O teacher of Ibraaheem, teach me! O educator of Sulaymaan, grant me understanding!”.


Allah commanded Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam): “…and say:, ‘My Lord! Increase me in knowledge’” (TaHa, 114). Even Ibrahim (alayhis salam) made dua for ilm and righteousness (Ash-shuara, 83).


Lower the wing of humility to creation

The ulama are the inheritors of knowledge from Prophets. Humility before them is essential. Allah warns us how Shaytaan works from all directions to make us amongst the thankless (Al-Araf, 17). 


Kibr is a disease of tyrants (Ibn Uthaymeen). Arrogance and tawheed cannot harvest in the same soul. Feeling superior for performance of any act of worship represents lack of taqwa and understanding of Allah’s asma was-sifaat. We are reminded of how Qarun, when boasted about being wealthy owing to his ilm, was swallowed by the earth under Allah’s command (Al-Qasas, 76-78).


A kind of kibr is to despise the people, and to look down upon them. This attitude arises when a person is amazed with his own self, thinks highly of himself, and thinks he is better than others. So this causes him to have kibr towards the creation, despise them, mock them, and to degrade them through both speech and action (As-Sa’di). Allaah’s Messenger sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam said:

“It is enough evil for a person to despise his brother Muslim.” (Sahih Muslim)


A true student of knowledge has reverence of Allah’s greatness and knows nobody can match it. Thus, he mellows down knowing that our esteem comes from none than other Allah(Ibn-Khamis).



Humility of Scholars

Abu Bakr (radiallahu anhu), the best man after Prophets, made du’aa that Allah makes him better than what people perceive him to be, that Allah does not make him accountable for their words and that he is forgiven for things they are not aware of. This du’aa swelled Shaikh Albanee when he was praised by a brother and he broke down saying that he was merely a student of knowledge (Abu Yahyaa).


Abdullah ibn-Umar (Radiallahu anhu) was renowned for his knowledge and piety. He was always cautious of what came out of his tongue. He narrated hadiths of Rusool Allah only if he was confident of remembering every bit of it


Musab bin Umayr (radiallahu-anhu), was from an affluent family but his humility reflects when he chose to give up his wealth for imaan. The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) chose him to be the first ambassador of Islam, to Yathrib. When the chief of the tribe came with fury to shoo them away, Musab instead of retaliating, humbly offered him to listen. He suggested that he may leave if he does not like what Musab and the Prophet had to say. It was a result of this poise, that the chief along with Sa’ad bin Muad and the entire tribe accepted Islam


The four imaams have been known to not treat their words are the final line. Imam Hanifa, did not allow his students to write down his teachings lest he may change his opinion in future. Imam Malik was wary of making his jurisprudence the law of the state during Umayyid dynasty. Nor did he ever haste to speak on matters he had no knowledge of. Imam Sha’fie also gave in to the fact that there will be many hadith that will be known after him. Thus, he gave preference to the word of Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) as well. 


The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam)

Allah (azza wajal) commanded Prophet (Salallahu alayhi wasallam) to lower his wings and show his gentleness to the believers (Ash-Shuara, 215).


The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) was an epitome of humility. We have narrations where he would sit on the ground, lick his fingers after eating and ride donkeys. He established being humble as his sunnah and who is a better muslim than he who follows the sunnah of Rusool Allah.


He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) would walk down to meet those who were sick. His heart would melt to see the impoverished in distress. So much that he addressed to treat slaves as brothers put under our control by Allah. Kids would climb upon him when he would pray and he would be patient. When he sat with his companions, he looked like a commoner such by-passers had to inquire who Muhammad was from amongst them.


He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) prayed the salah of janazah for a destitute black woman who looked after the mosque. He would accept the most meager invitations and would greet children. A freed slave-woman wanted to divorce her slave-husband trespassing the Prophet’s advice and Rusool-Allah accepted her choice.


He would not hesitate to move dust and do works of labour with those lesser in status so as to help them. He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) ate as the servant ate, he sat as the servant sat. That was how he address himself as- a servant. 


CONCLUSION (Kibr- A barrier to Paradise)


From ‘Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood radi-Allaahu ‘anhu who related that Allaah’s Messenger sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam said:

Whoever has an atoms worth of kibr (pride) in his heart will not enter Paradise.” So a man said: What about a person who loves (i.e. takes pride in) wearing beautiful clothes and beautiful shoes? So he replied: “Indeed Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty. Kibr (pride) is to reject the truth, and to despise the people.”


Excerpts from my life

The Soul Attached to Debt

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem



It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“The soul of the believer is attached to his debt until it is paid off.”
Sunan ib Majah
Grade: Hasan
Reference: Vol. 3, Book 15, Hadith 2413‏

Subhanallah! It gives me goosebumps to read that. It was a good day. Husband and I were able to repay all our debts yesterday. It was a not-so-tough year and indeed it is true that our souls were constantly attached to the debts. There was not a thing we could peacefully purchase without thinking about the debts. Not even a simple dinner at a modest restaurant. So there was no shopping to do, no furniture at home (except a bed), no appliances and at one point no house-help

Amidst all this, there were lessons. We figured out how immaterial extravagance was. There was never a shortage of happiness or satisfaction. Allah subhana wa ta’ala helped us to understand at a very early stage that goodness does not come from money. We did everything that a normal person does. We did eat good food, we did have warm clothes in winters, we did go for budget travels, we did host guests now and then and Alhamdulillah we had a comfortable home in  a good locality as well. This sounds extravagant, does it not? The simplest pleasures of life comes for very cheap.

Yesterday, my neighbours were discussing their shopping. Everyone had been to some place for vacations and had purchased bedsheets, crockery and stuff. One of them was mentioning her intent to purchase a diwaan set since it will “look” good in her hall. I observed how I had nothing to speak about in this sitting. When I went for this short trip with my husband, visiting the market never crossed my mind. On a personal level, I have always disliked going to markets, interacting with shopkeepers, hoping from shop to shop in search of that one special piece in perfect quality and bargaining. I would rather not have that thing in my life 😀

Last evening was an evening of celebration for us. We relaxed unburdened. I mentioned how good it feels. I mentioned the neighbours intent of purchasing new furniture. For the first time Husband asked me, “Do you want to purchase some furniture? “. I could sense he was perhaps guilty of keeping me without furniture. I study on the same bed on which I write, sleep, jump, leap and sometimes eat when the floor is to cold to sit down.

All I had to say was, “naaah! I will only have to clean all the furniture if I buy.”

It is fun you know. I see my friends and neighbours spending hours each day cleaning the furniture. Scrubbing each table, wiping every ridge and curve. As for me, it is just one wipe on the bed edges. 😀 yaay! Where do you think I get all the time to write this stuff?
Anyway, I wanted to focus on steps we took to repay the debt. This was simple and quick. Let’s have a brief look-
  1. Calculate your monthly expense: I started writing down our expenses each day.
    At the end of the month I could analyse the expenses I could reduce.
  2. Slot a specific amount to repay each month: Now this depends on three factors- how much your loan is, how many months do you want to pay it off and what your minimum monthly expense is. So the first thing we did each month was to scrape away a portion in the beginning and give it away. The month when we expected guests or we had to go to visit family, we held back that amount. This delayed the repayment target by a few months. We managed our expenses and savings
  3. Cut down spending- there is pleasure in living without luxury. Think twice before investing somewhere- whether it is necessary or whether you can wait. Substitute more expensive things with lesser. Example- make something exquisite at home rather than dining out each week, leave a bit early and walk down to places instead of availing public transport, switch AC for a table fan etc.
  4. Indulge at times- Now, do not make life miserable. Of course buy yourself thing and accessories at times. Do dine out and have a good time. Invest in making good memories. Dress up and look good. Do not look poor and miserable. I save a little money each day to have my day. I may be a miniscule amount as Rupees 5 or 10 a day or maybe some days I would sneak in a 100 in my piggy. End of the month, it would be a fine amount to buy me a gift.
  5. Make dua- This is the most important. We never took our loans and our creditors for granted. Remember that only Allah can free us from debts and grant us rizq. Here are a few that we often recited-
  • “O Allah, make what is lawful enough for me, as opposed to what is unlawful, and spare me by Your grace, of need of others.”

اللَّهُمَّ اكْفِنِي بِحَلالِكَ عَنْ حَرَامِكَ وَأَغْنِنِي بِفَضْلِكَ عَمَّنْ سِوَاكَ
Allâhummak-finî bi-halâlika can harâmika wa aghninî bi-fadhlika camman siwâk. [At-Tirmidhi 5/560

  • “O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men.”

    اللّهُـمَّ إِنِّي أَعْوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الهَـمِّ وَ الْحُـزْنِ، والعًجْـزِ والكَسَلِ والبُخْـلِ والجُـبْنِ، وضَلْـعِ الـدَّيْنِ وغَلَبَـةِ الرِّجال
    Allâhumma innî a’oodhu bika minal-hammi walhazani, wal’ajzi wal-kasali, wal-bukhli wal-jubni, wa dhala’id-dayni wa ghalabatir-rijâl [Al-Bukhari 7/158]

In sha Allah very soon you will see debts settling down and flying away. It is a test of patience and with time, this trial too shall end.

It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“The best of you – or among the best of you – are those who pay off their debts in the best manner.”
Sunan ibn Majah
Vol. 3, Book 15, Hadith 2423
May Allah ease your affairs and rewards you.
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
IOU Assignments- informations., Islam

Look Before You Leap

Bismillahir  Rahmaanir  Raheem


Taqleed  is  when  a  person  is  followed  such  that  every  act  and  word  of  him  is  blindly obeyed.It  is  irrespective  of  the  fact  whether  the  person  so  followed  is  worthy  of  being  idolized  in  such  manner  (Al-Fawzaan,  2014)


Allah  says  in  Surah  Az-Zukhruf  that  whenever  a  messenger  was  sent  to  any  town,  the  affluent  always  rejected  the  message  under  the  pretext  of  obeying  the  creed  of  their  forefathers  blindly.  It  has  been  mentioned  repeatedly  in  the  Qur’an  to  signify  that  blind  following  has  been  a  tradition  amongst  the  people  of  jahilliyah.





When  the  methodology  of  taqleed  is  applied  positively,  it  may  take  two  forms-  as  ittibaa  (following)  and  iqtidaa  (taking  example).  It  is  mentioned  in  Surah  Yusuf  that  Yusuf  (alayhis  salam)  said  that  he  follows  the  religion  of  his  forefathers  –  Ibraheem  (alayhis  salam),  Ishaaq  (alayhis  salam)  and  Yaqoob(  alayhis  salam).  He  thereby  declared  his  faith  in  Allah  as  the  only  one  worthy  of  being  worshipped  (Yusuf,  38).  


There  are  two  types  of  taqleed–  

  1.  General:  This  is  when  a  person  follows  the  madhab  of  an  imam,  accepting  every  ruling  of  it.  Some  scholars  say  it  is  obligatory  for  a  person  who  is  incapable  of  doing  ijtihad.  While  others,  like  Ibn  Tayyimah,  declare  it  to  be  prohibited  since  it  leads  to  taqleed  of  an  imam  in  matters  of  religion  other  than  the  Prophet  and  this  is  against  the  ijmaa.

    Shaikh  Ibn  Tayyimah  said  that  a  person  choosing  to  obey  certain  things  from  a  madhab  and  then  going  against  its  ruling  without  any  evidence  from  shari’ah  is  a  person  who  follows  his  desires.  Whereas,  it  is  obligatory  upon  a  person  following  a  madhab  to  reject  the  ruling  of  his  madhab  if  he  finds  an  evidence  in  shari’ah  or  a  ruling  of  a  more  knowledgeable  scholar.

  2.  Specific-  It  is  when  a  person  capable  of  doing  ijtihaad,  does  taqleed  of  a  more  knowledgeable  person  on  a  specific  matter  due  to  his  inability  to  derive  a  conclusion.

    Ibn  Uthaymeen  said  that  a  grave  mistake  that  people  make  is  when  the  words  of  Rusool  Allah  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  is  told  and  they  oppose  because  their  leader  gave  a  view  otherwise.  Wherein,  Allah  asks  us  in  the  Qur’an  what  response  we  gave  to  the  words  of  Rusool  Allah  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  and  not  to  the  words  of  any  other  imam/  scholar.  If  the  scholar  made  the  statement  bona  fidely,  then  we  must  make  dua’a  for  his  forgiveness.  However,  we  cannot  declare  any  person  to  be  infallible  and  use  his  words  as  an  evidence  against  the  words  of  Rusool  Allah  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).




 It  is  important  that  we  differentiate  between  taqleed  (blind  following)and  ittibaa  (reasoned  following).  We  know  that  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  mentioned  that  the  generation  of  sahabis,  the  tabi’een  and  tabe-tabi’een  to  be  the  best  (Muslim,  6153).  However,  Ibn  Abbas  (radiallahu  anhu)  said  that  except  the  Prophet,  we  cannot  take  from  someone  everything  he  says  about  religion  (Imam  Ahmad)

Therefore,  we  must  not  even  obey  earlier  interpretations  blindly.  To  follow  a  particular  imam  or  leader  blindly,  despite  seeing  errors  is  forbidden  and  the  guilty  is  to  be  severely  criticized.  It  has  been  reported  that  Ibn  Abbas  (radiallahu  anhu)  severely  rebuked  the  people  when  they  gave  preference  to  the  opinion  of  Umar  and  Abu  Bakr  (radiallahu  anhum)  which  was  opposed  to  the  hadith  of  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  of  joining  the  Umrah  with  the  Hajj  (at-tamattu).  He  cursed  them  that  stones  would  shower  from  the  sky  on  them  (Ibn  Abdul  Wahhab).

 A  person  who  does  not  have  knowledge  of  religion  cannot  be  looked  up  to  as  a  role  model.  A  person  who  comprehends  and  is  on  the  straight  path,  is  one  worthy  of  being  idolized.  Blind  following  is  a  form  of  fanatical  attachment.  Allah  says  in  Surah  Luqman,  verse  21  that  the  devil  invites  us  into  hell  fire  by  tempting  us  to  follow  the  creed  of  our  forefathers  who  were  neither  guided  nor  did  they  understand  anything.  All  they  have  as  proof  for  their  deeds  is  that  their  forefathers  did  the  same  (Ibn  Katheer)

 Allah  says  in  the  Qur’an,  “ask  the  people  of  knowledge  if  you  do  not  know”  (An-Nahl,  43).  The  ahlul-dhikr  mean  the  people  of  knowledge.  A  muqallid  is  not  considered  to  be  amongst  the  ahlul  ilm.  The  scholars  agree  that  there  are  those  who  are  ignorant  and  incapable  of  comprehending  evidence.  Taqleed  is  for  them.  Those  who  can  search  for  evidence  are  not  counted  amongst  them.  The  intelligent  ones  can  logically  deduce  evidence.  (Ibn  Uthaymeen)

 The  four  imams  have  been  known  to  declare  their  affiliation  to  the  Qur’an  and  sunnah  (Philips,  1990).  Imam  Shafi’e  went  to  the  extent  of  elaborating  that  everyone  including  him  unknowingly  skips  certain  sunnah  of  Allah’s  messenger  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam),  therefore  there  are  bound  to  be  rulings  made  by  him  that  will  be  contrary  to  the  rulings  of  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).  In  such  a  scenario  the  ruling  of  Allah’s  messenger  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).will  be  his  ruling  

 This  is  evidence  to  the  fact  that  all  four  imams  were  against  blind  following.  They  gave  preference  to  Qur’an  and  Sunnah  over  their  saying.  Allah  says  in  the  Qur’an,  “Follow  what  has  been  sent  down  to  you  from  your  Lord;  and  do  not  take  any  Awliya  besides  Him.  Little  do  you  remember![Al-A`raaf,  3].  This  implies  that  we  must  follow  and  imitate  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).who  brought  us  the  revelation  from  Allah.  Disregarding  him  and  following  someone  else  will  lead  to  being  misguided  (Ibn  Kathir).  It  is  thus  important  that  a  man  with  logic  must  ponder  and  investigate  about  those  from  whom  he  takes  ‘ilm.  

 Keeping  the  above  evidences  in  mind,  we  may  deduce  that  taqleed  is  not  permissible  as  a  general  rule.  The  only  exception  being  when  a  personal  analysis  (ijtihaad)  is  not  possible  to  make  due  to  lack  of  resources  or  on  matters  not  directly  available  in  Qur’an  and  Sunnah.  The  statement  in  question  is  therefore  incorrect.

 Imam  Ahmad  however  quoted  that  for  matters  where  taqleed  is  done  until  evidence  reaches  them,  a  person  is  not  blameworthy.  Rather  those  who  reject  the  truth  in  favor  of  taqleed,  despite  being  presented  with  evidence,  must  be  rebuked.



 Allah  warns  those  who  oppose  the  Messenger’s  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).commands  that  a  fitnah  will  befall  upon  them  (An-Noor,  63).  The  fitnah  implies  that  they  will  be  afflicted  with  shirk  or  will  be  struck  by  hypocrisy  or  innovation  (Ibn  Katheer).

 When  people  are  called  to  obey  the  Messenger  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam).  the  hypocrites  shun  it  (An-Nisa,  61).  A  believer,  therefore,  always  acts  upon  the  shari’ah  and  sticks  to  the  truth  on  basis  of  evidences.  When  evidence  is  not  apparent,  he  does  not  oppress  a  brother  on  basis  of  ijtihaad,  rather  sincerely  advises  him  (bin  Baaz).  Indeed  a  person  of  truth  and  sunnah  does  not  follow  anyone  blindly  except  the  Prophet(salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  whose  words  were  revelation  and  whoever  differs  from  him  is  a  person  of  innovation  and  sectarianism  (Ibn  Uthaymeen)


1) Al-  Qur’an

2) Ibn  Uthaymeen,  Mohammad,  (1999)  On  Ijtihad  and  Taqleed  (http://www.spubs.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=MNJ06&articleID=MNJ060001&articlePages=1)

3)  Al  Fawzaan,  Saalih,  (2014),  Blind  Following  and  its  Dangers (https://abdurrahman.org/2014/09/29/blind-following-and-its-dangers-shaikh-saalih-al-fawzaan/)

4) Ibn  Hasan,  Abdur  Rahmaan,  (2015),  The  Forbiddence  of  Adhering  Blindly  to  the  Saying  of  a  Scholar  in  Opposition  To  An  Authentic  Text,  and  the  Severe  Rebuke  due  Upon  One  Who  is  Guilty  Of  this

5) Ibn  Tayyimah,  Taqi  ad-din;  Ibn  Baz,  Abd  al-Aziz,  Misplaced  Loyalty,  (2015),  https://thewayofsalafiyyah.wordpress.com/2015/06/21/misplaced-loyalty-ibn-taymiyyah-and-ibn-baz/

6) Philps,  AA  Bilal,(1990),  The  Evolution  of  Fiqh,  India:  Tawheed  Publications

7) Ibn  Katheer

8) Sahih  Muslim,

9) Sahih  Bukhari