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The Vain Muslim Wedding-3

‚ÄčComes the wedding day. Sleep deprived me is in full mood to dodge the wedding party and catch a nap. Sigh! but that was against the decree of Allah. No corner I found could remain away from the mystic touch of chattering crowd. My ears obviously would flap wide open whenever someone commented on matters regarding Islam. The groom was dressed, his hair oiled and perfumed. The amusing part is Muslims here believe in doing everything auspicious facing the Kiblah. Let me give away the happenings now..

1. Great Food: No denying this. Food is superb. It was however sad that I had a hard time eating all the gravy and masala and chat from under my niqab due to the presence of males all around. At the end of the festivities, a lot of it goes wasted. The surprising thing was when some poor relatives expressed interest to take some food back home, they were denied. A day later, it was in news that lots and lots of food was wasted and thrown.
Another amazing thing I witnessed for the first time was food stealing in the wedding party. Hoards of sheermal (delicious Indian bread) were sneaked in and locked by some relatives, creating a shortage whilst serving the guests.  No wonder so many people were astonished seeing one on my plate! ūüėÄ Yeah I managed to get one of those last pieces served. 

2. Nikah Rules Crashed: women gathered into a room for the nikah to be conducted. Phew. Finally that one moment where I could remove my niqab and flash my make up a bit. 

No no no. What I forgot was that it was the best opportunity for the Romeos to catch a view of all beautiful ladies at one go! So we had Romeos peeping in one after another and Juliet’s blushing or acting to ‘not care’ .. Blah blah blah burrrrrrrrrrrr

Soon the bride accepted the groom as her husband. And there was a group crying session. They cried and cried and cried. 

This moment amuses me every time. In the excitement of getting married, I forgot to cry at my wedding. :-/  Till date when I witness the brides weeping, I try hard to grasp the emotion but I am only left gawking 

Then I was waiting for the khutba…but….. There was none that I could hear. Husband says, nikah khutba was merely a formality of few things uttered and nobody paying attention. Nobody bothered about putting up speakers for the audience and women to listen to the khutba. 

The bride is then taken to dress up. Yeah, they get married in one costume. Cry and ruin that make up and costume. Then they change for the final look. So the $1000 (Rs. 65,000 approx) wedding gown is just tossed off after 30minuted of use. And to shop for it, we waste approximately 746373hours. [Warning: serious exaggerations!]

3) Dwaar chikhai– so I was boggled when I was stopped at the door after we went back home. I was clueless. A random me asked what the matter was

-“there is a ritual left. Dwar chikai” , says the groom’s sister

-” what’s that? “, clueless super innocent me

-” you don’t even know what dwar chikai is?” , sharp taunt from irritating aunty. As if not knowing dwar chikai disqualifies me to set my foot on this piece of earth.

-“it’s not even an Islamic ritual :-O”, bang on reply.  

The stupidest thing she went to do after this is to complain to my mom in law. 

-“your daughter in law says dwar chikai is shirk ”

-“it’s not shirk. It’s biddah”, I prompt from behind

*smug* *smug*

-“haan haan she is right “, says my ever supporting mom in law

Haha. We giver her the “loser” look and annoying aunty shies away from yet another failed attempt. 

So the groom is basically stopped at the doorstep and denied entry or privacy with his wife unless he pays some money. 

So what was all the fuss about? Grrrrrrrr

4) Joota churai : Grooms shoes are stolen by bride’s sister and he must pay a price ten times its market price to get it back. Bride’s sister/ bridesmaids laugh and tease the groom. Groom’s brother/groomservants tease them back by refusing to pay. Finally groom obliges and increases the cost price of those shoes by thousands.

5) A beautiful bride: You see none like them. Hearts skip a beat to witness their beauty. Even of the male audience as they come to click pics and view the brides sitting on the stage. Decked up and gorgeous. The bride now adorns sindoor (auspicious religious red powder to signify marital status of women in Hinduism) and bindi (red dot on forehead denoting the same). 

Finally after being on stage for 2-3hrs, the bride has to be deported to her marital home. Therefore, she wears her seventh dress of the evening. She is covered in an abaya customarily, which is soon taken off when she sits in the car. They cry a lot again and I scratch my head wondering why. ūüėÄ I am being mean I guess. 

The vain wedding is followed by a month of controversies and disputes. Many are still finding out flaws in the much extravagant wedding. Pointing out shortcomings in gradeur or royal treatment of guests. Arguing over how they felt humiliated when XYZ said so and so ..or when the bride’s mother did not do so and so for her. The villains are investigated by the Sherlock Holmes of the family who knew the realty of ABC since ever but found this an appropriate moment to unleash their reality. We also get intimations of who said what about us and how much the informer loves us for having informed us (though said nothing in our defence on the spot)..and the saga goes on and on and on…..


Jazakallah khair for being my patient reader. May Allah reward you

Excerpts from my life

The Vain Muslim Wedding-2

The benefit of observing purdah was that nobody expected any help in the chores from me. The chores required roaming around the place and Therefore, amidst the chaos, I could stick to an isolated corner of the house and write this

My companions kept changing. Each came and left for some work soon after. But I stayed there without being tagged the useless vain bahu (daughter in law). 

Here come more facts and features of the Vain Muslim Wedding:

1) The Deen Discussions- Everyone gets the opportunity to explore the  ulama in them. So we get to hear innumerable fatwas and rulings Like keeping  hing (asafetida) in a paper with the bride and family to keep them safe in journey, reciting all five kalimas before nikah, piercing nose is fardh for married women, drinking water the sunnah way gives you reward of 100 martyrs, congregational duas being sunnah and of course various situation where it is “Okay” to remove niqab . 

2) Cramped spaces: This is all about crowded places and messy floors. The house becomes a mess due to the two person per square feet population density. There is water, paper, wrappers, shoes, dropped food and many stamped crushed somethings on the floor. I have spent hours searching for a clean 5*2 sq feet space inaccessible by males for ten minutes so that I could comfortably offer my Salah. 

3) Sleep deprivation: There is no fun when you’re sleep deprived. Period. The functions went on until 1:30-2:00am. You crawl in the morning to make it for fajr (only to find the entire household sleeping due to hangover after partying hard). Just as you get a little sleep, the commotion starts. People start roaming around the house for morning walks, thereby entering each room and checking out if anyone is available for the day’s talking session start. Sometimes there will also be an old auntys group coming in and hanging out in the room for a chit chat in trembling loud voices to comfortably hear each other. There is no sleeping after that. People people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people people

4) The day before wedding– it starts with Qur’an Khawni. People are hired to read Quran in your home within 15minutes and get done with it. You gotta fit Allah somewhere dude. So just squeeze time out for it.Family and guests are here and there “acting busy”

Then we have more important stuff like haldi cum sangeet (Music ceremony). We get a DJ and shake that leg of yours babe! There is mehendi (applying turmeric on the bride) and we have cameramen to record it too. 

Gifts for the bride and groom is exotically spread on display and everyone is informed to come and view. There are heaps of gold & diamond jewelery, shoes, accessories, clothes etc. I dont even remember what that ritual was called. 

Rest of the day was all about being bothered about food and dodging the eyes of men.

5)Food- That is everything women in the household do. I don’t know why managing food takes a caterer as well as 50 men in the marriage venue and 50 women at home. The day would begin with people scrambling for a cup of tea and biscuits. Next, chaos would start for where the breakfast was. People would spend hours to figure out whether to have it in the wedding venue or whether to import it at home. Some would leave while others would choose to be at home because going to venue would mean getting dressed up. 

Thus, for them breakfast would finally arrive at 1pm. Lunch would arrive post 4pm. The food is always royal but until dinner evryome would have lost appetite. 

Third day into the ceremony and everyone had given up. 90% did not have supper. Many piled it on plates out of greed and couldn’t swallow beyond few morsels. 

Result? Overused washrooms and some unpleasant odour in the air. ūüėÄ *chuckles*
I cannot believe the post has gone to be so long and I am still not done with my critical analysis. We will follow up with a third part.
By the way, I feel so cheesy to have written “The Wedding Saga” series. I read that a few days back and couldn’t stop gawking at how mushy I was to write that. I wanted to delete it out of embarrassement or redo the framing. Ones who read it deserve an apology. 

Come back for part 3! 

Excerpts from my life

The Vain Muslim Wedding- 1

 I finally get invited for a  muslim wedding. If you are belong to the indopak region, I am sure you are aware that the term muslim wedding is not synonymous with Islamic wedding. 

Weddings have never appealed to me. I think I suffer from agoraphobia. Crowds creep me out. Silence is precious
From the time of arrival, the wedding has been of amuse. Not only am I witnessing the “behind the scenes” of a muslim wedding for the first time, it is only the second time I am witnessing of any wedding at all. 

There is not much I have to do here. Therefore, I’ll do what I do the best- write. Here are my observations of the wedding:

1) Tresspassing Hijab: not a single person observes hijab. There are some who observe pseudo purdah- that is the purdah in markets but the moment you step into your destination, the hijabs/abaya/niqab comes off. It doesn’t matter whether there are males here. They are all “like your brothers”. Sufficient to make them your mahrams. 

No, do not frown. I was insisted to remove my plain looking hijab amidst the flashiness here because it was after all the wedding season! The men are after all your brothers. 

Funnily, I was even informed of some new verses of the Qur’an which said that purdah is to be observed only from jeth (husband’s older brother) and not devar (husbands younger brother). Some more came around to say that Allah says if you accept someone as your brother from the core of your heart, before him it is permissible to be without purdah. 

We have some upcoming aalims in every Muslim household here. If I make a list here, the ulamas out there are surely gonna shy away. 
2) Gun point invitation– It wasn’t a normal ” please attend my daughter’s wedding” invitation. Invitations are more egotised. “If you do not come, then one day you might want me to come and I will avenge” OR “you don’t come to my daughter’s wedding, I won’t attend your daughters wedding”. Term it threats, warnings, blackmail or Indian way of expressing love. That is how it is . Your job leaves are over, you live 1000km away, you are broke or you are heavily pregnant. None of it matters. You don’t come implies you never wanted to in the first place. 
3) Oh All that Gold– woohooo!! So all the gold that you have stocked in your lockers in out. You can make out the status of a person by observing the number of gold rings on his wife’s fingers. There are thick rings, antique rings, fancy rings, heavy solid rings, big rings, small rings, rings with gemstones and those with none. 

And there are chains, necklaces, bangles , nose pins, anklets and XYZ ABC pqrstuvewxyz all in Gold!

You can feel those eyes piercing through the gold of another. And the ones with bulky gold have their bosoms swelling with pride.
4) All That Rush– The entire joint family is gathered into the family home. And everyoneeee has lot of work to do. Even if they do not have work they act like they’re busy and going crazy with the hectic schedule. Despite having wedding planners, caterers, decorators, there will be 50 people serving everything. 
5) Gossip– So much gossip. Who did what. Who is oh so rich. Did you see her dress. So and so fixed her daughter’s marriage with so and so. Those people are such creeps. I am the best person on earth. I am telling this because I wish good for you. 

And so much to catch up! Long time no see. Did your daughter in law conceive? Has it not been five years to her wedding? ABC already had three kids in four years. . 
6) Taunts– the best opportunity to steam out all that boiling blood. So you didn’t invite me for your wedding eh? Pass on the bitterest emotions with a sweet smile. The victim usually retorts back with an equally below the belt remark. If you observe conversations, you will realise who hates whom, who fears whom or the darkest mistakes in the life of a person on which she is frequently taunted. 
The twisted turning vain Indian Muslim wedding has a lot more interesting observations. A single post does not suffice. Let us follow up with a part two.

Excerpts from my life

She Speaks English!

It was a long journey. Husband and I had embarked the train and were going to be there for seven hours.
Journey has its own virtues. One thing I try to be conscious about when I am in public, that I represent my religion. Every mistake I do will be credited to the “how vain Muslims are” account and every impressive deed might help people to have a good perception of Islam. 
A family of 5 soon joined us in the compartment. Three kids and their parents. 

Watching younger generations always amuse you. I used to wonder as a kid why mum finds it so hard to figure the computer or smartphone out. Perhaps its the same reason why I find it hard to grasp their lingo and gadgets today. So much that I feel its unnecessary to waste time grasping it. Life is good without it as well. Just what mom must have thought. 

A while later, I could figure out that they were a Muslim family as well. The name of the son was Muhammad. They seemed to be a family of “okay Muslims“. 

Whenever I see the Okay Muslim, I cannot help remembering a statement my dad gave: “ even real Muslims don’t practise Islam like you do. You are overdoing it.” 

It is something disheartening. To see the absence of Sunnah from the lives of Muslims. The decreasing importance of Islam in children. The void that is filling our lives now. A void which comes when the heart has forgotten to fear and hope from Allah. When a muslim forgets what he has to be.
The time for salah approached, and husband combined salatul Maghreb and salatul Isha. 

– “Mom what is he doing?” , I heard an exclamation. 

-“He is praying beta”, comes a sincere soft reply. 
((Me *gawking* hainnnn??? Muslim kid asking what a man in Salah is doing? Some form of break dance eh?))

“He is so sincere mom. I have never seen someone pray even in train! He must not be missing even single namaz then”

*mom smugs*

-“Why should he? Especially when Allah has made prayer during travel so easy for you. You don’t have to pray the sunnah. The fardh is halved and you may even combine salatul zuhr and asr, and salatul Maghreb and Isha. There is no excuse to miss salah.” 

Did I just speak that aloud? 

Woopsie Daisy! 

*awkward silence*

I noticed the mother looking at me with an embarrassed smile. The child sitting and staring at me wide mouthed. Perhaps they realises that there are ears underneath the niqab and yeah, mouth as well. 

After the while the child when to the top berth of the train to sisters. Husband and I were on the lower berths. I could hear murmurs

-“dude, she speaks English ”

-“but she wears a niqab”

-“yeah but I heard her speaking English”

#confused kids.

Voila! I still have ears. I look at them and pass a smile. Seems they realised I heard them. 
I wonder what part of Islam has taught us that we need to shed a few  sunnahs to be better educated. Who do think is responsible for imparting this understanding to the non-muslims that only the outdated and uneducated adorn the hijab ordained by Allah? Is it the media or is it we Muslims ourselves?

I try to imagine the lives of the next generation. Running in the rat race. Confused. Despaired. The same void. A depressing life, which has been quoted as modern and the ultimate purpose of life. A life devoid of barakah. Abundant is everything but barakah. Because no matter what we do, if we do not know who be belong to… There is never the sense of being in the right place. 

Excerpts from my life, Islam

An Overview on Jinns.

Bismillahir  Rahmaanir  Raheem



Jinns ¬†are ¬†a ¬†part ¬†of ¬†Allah‚Äôs ¬†makhlooq. ¬†Allah ¬†created ¬†them ¬†before ¬†humans ¬†from ¬†smokeless ¬†flame ¬†of ¬†fire ¬†(Al ¬†Hijr, ¬†26-27). ¬†Ibn ¬†Abbas ¬†said, ¬†‚ÄúIt ¬†is ¬†the ¬†smokeless ¬†flame ¬†that ¬†kills.‚ÄĚ ¬†Abdullah ¬†ibn ¬†Mas‚Äôud ¬†narrated ¬†that ¬†the ¬†Prophet ¬†(salallahu ¬†alayhi ¬†wasallam) ¬†said ¬†that ¬†the ¬†smokeless ¬†flame ¬†is ¬†one ¬†of ¬†the ¬†seventy ¬†parts ¬†of ¬†the ¬†smokeless ¬†fire ¬†from ¬†which ¬†Jinns ¬†were ¬†created ¬†(Tafseer ¬†ibn ¬†Katheer).

Ibn  Abbaas,  Ikrimah,  and  others  interpret  marajin-min-nar,  to  be  the  utmost  severity  of  the  flame.  or  to  be  from  the  best  part  of  flame.  Imam  Nawawi  mentioned  in  his  explanation  to  Sahih  Muslim  that  the  smokeless  flame  mixed  with  blackness  of  fire  (Ibn  Katheer).



There  are  three  types  of  Jinn  (At-Tabarani  and  Al-Hakim):  

· one  that  can  fly,  

· one  in  form  of  snakes  and  dogs,  and  

· one  which  resides  and  roams  about  in  a  particular  locality.


In  a  narration  by  Ibn  Masood,  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  said  that  for  every  human  has  been  appointed  a  constant  jinn  companion  known  as  the  Qareen  (Muslim,  2814)  The  hadith  is  a  reference  to  the  fitnah  caused  its  whispers.  


Allah  subhana  wa  ta’ala  has  blessed  the  jinns  with  certain  powers  which  we  come  to  know  via  many  Qur’anic  verses  and  hadiths.  Few  of  them  are-

· Speed:  Jinns  can  move  from  one  place  to  another  very  fast.  The  tale  of  an  ifreet  has  been  narrated  in  Qur’an  who  promised  Sulayman  (alayhis  salam)  that  he  would  bring  the  throne  of  the  queen  of  Sheba  to  Jerusalem  faster  than  a  man  gets  up  from  his  seat  (An-Naml,  39-40).


· Invisibility:  Humans  cannot  see  Jinn  but  they  can  see  us  (Al-Ar’af,  27).  In  Surah  Al-A’raf,  Allah  warns  us  against  the  plot  of  Iblees  and  his  followers.  The  root  of  this  enmity  lies  from  the  time  of  Adam  (alayhi  salam).  It  was  the  plot  of  Iblees  which  expelled  Adam  (alayhi  salam)  from  Paradise  and  caused  his  privates  to  be  uncovered  (Ibn  Katheer).  


· Precedence  in  matters  of  space:  The  Jinns  used  to  approach  the  heaven  to  be  in  contact  with  it  and  eavesdrop  whatever  Allah  allowed  them  to  hear  from  the  news  of  heaven  (Al  Jinn,  8-9).


· Knowledge  in  building  and  other  crafts:  By  Allah’s  will  Prophet  Sulaymaan  ruled  over  Jinns  and  under  his  command  they  constructed  structures  like  Synagogues  and  statues,  basins  like  wells  and  boilers  built  into  the  ground  (Saba,  12-13).  It  may  also  be  estimated  that  they  have  ability  to  communicate  and  travel  wirelessly (Al-Ashqar,  1998)


¬∑¬†Ability ¬†to ¬†change ¬†forms-¬†¬†Several ¬†narrations ¬†have ¬†been ¬†recorded ¬†where ¬†shaytaan ¬†took ¬†human ¬†forms. ¬†In ¬†the ¬†battle ¬†of ¬†Badr, ¬†shaytaan¬†¬†took ¬†form ¬†of ¬†Suraaqa ¬†ibn-Malik ¬†and ¬†promised ¬†victory ¬†to ¬†the ¬†enemies. ¬†Allah ¬†thereby ¬†revealed ¬†the ¬†following ¬†verses- ¬†‚ÄúAnd ¬†when ¬†Satan ¬†made ¬†their ¬†deeds ¬†seem ¬†fair ¬†to ¬†them ¬†and ¬†said: ¬†No ¬†one ¬†of ¬†mankind ¬†can ¬†conquer ¬†you ¬†this ¬†day, ¬†for ¬†I ¬†am ¬†your ¬†protector.‚ÄĚ ¬†(al-Anfaal, ¬†48).


In  a  narration  by  Abu  Hurayrah,  shaytaan  entered  his  home  on  two  consecutive  days  to  steal  only  to  be  caught  red  handed.  On  being  caught  the  third  time,  he  plead  to  be  spared  and  advised  Abu  Hurayrah  to  recite  Ayatul  Kursi  each  night  and  a  guardian  from  Allah  would  guard  him.  The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  said  that  this  thief  was  the  shaytaan  who  told  the  truth,  though  he  is  a  liar  (Bukhari).


· Ability  to  flow  in  blood  of  humans:  An  incident  has  been  narrated  in  the  two  Sahihs  where  once  two  sahabis  saw  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  with  his  wife  and  he  clarified  that  it  was  his  wife  because  shaytaan  flows  in  humans  like  blood.  Thus,  shaytaan  may  cast  evil  thoughts  in  their  minds.




Allah  mentions  in  Surah  Al-Isra  verse  65  that  the  jinns  have  no  control  over  His  (subhana  wa  ta’ala)  bondsmen.  Iblees  swore  to  lead  mankind  astray  except  those  who  are  the  perfect  slaves  of  Allah  (Al-Hijr,  39-40)

Yet,  we  see  Muslims  being  overpowered  by  Shaytaan.  This  happens  due  to  their  own  sins  (Al-Haakim  and  Al-Baiqahi)



The  jinns  dwell  on  earth  like  mankind.  They  are  usually  found  in  ruins,  barren  lands  and  toilets.  Thus,  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  asked  us  to  seek  refuge  in  Allah  from  male  and  female  jinns  when  entering  toilets  (Al-Bukhaari,  142).  We  also  learn  that  there  are  both  male  and  female  jinns.  The  Qur’an  describes  spouses  of  paradise  to  be  untouched  by  both  men  and  jinn  (Ar-Rahmaan,  60).  Like  humans,  they  marry,  procreate,  have  relatives  and  die.  Similarly,  there  are  both  muslim  and  non-muslim  jinns  (Al-Jinn,  14-15).  Additionally,  they  have  different  levels  of  righteousness  and  taqwa  too  (Al-Jinn,  11)



Since  Jinns  can  see  us,  while  we  cannot,  the  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  on  many  occasions  asked  to  seek  protection  from  them.  Jinns  can  cast  evil  eye  on  humans.  The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  once  saw  a  maid  with  a  black  spot  on  her  face  and  asked  her  to  be  treated  by  ruqya  since  a  jinn  had  casted  evil  eye  on  her  (Bukhari).  

The  Prophet  (salallahu  alayhi  wasallam)  sought  protection  from  jinns  by  reciting  Surah  al-Falaq  and  an-Naas  (Tirmidhi  3/266)  

Allah  says  in  the  Qur’an  to  seek  refuge  from  shaytaan’s  whisperings  and  from  him  coming  in  proximity  to  us  (Al-Mu’minoon,  97-98).

Reciting  Bismillah  before  entering  home,  entering  washrooms,  sexual  intercourse,  meals,  changing  clothes  and  drinking  water  also  protects  us  from  them.  We  have  been  commanded  to  bring  children  indoors,  shut  doors  and  water  containers  with  the  name  of  Allah  after  sunset  and  to  put  off  lights  at  bedtime  to  prevent  evil  from  shayateen  (Bukhari  10/88)  

Lastly,  a  person  with  strong  imaan  will  always  overpower  a  jinn  if  they  were  to  wrestle.  It  has  been  reported  by  Al-Daarimi  (3247)  that  the  shaytaan  comes  out  of  the  house  like  a  donkey  breaking  wind  and  does  not  return  until  next  morning  


1. Al-Qur’an

2. Tafseer  ibn  Katheer  available  at  


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Islam, Random

There is No Escape

Those little moments you spend with your best companion- You. The one who has been there through all your ups and down. The only human who knows the storm within you. Every chaos and serenity that you’ve witnessed. Are you comfortable being alone with this person? To just sit in silence with her for fifteen minutes. With no gadget, with no book, without a piece of paper or even lights.

It is not an unknown feeling. Perhaps it is one we run away from. Our innate nature (fitrah) knows where things have gone wrong. Every little you do wrongly but hide it from the world, but it knows. That little lie, those wrongly fulfilled desires, those pangs of envy, the buts of superiority, the innocent statement you made against that person or the labour whom you bargained to underpay. It tells you that you will eventually be caught.

What will you do?

Run. Rush… Rush into Sujood. Dive into the pool of mercy. A Sujood that will piece the guilt right through your heart. That will drip down all that burdens you. Plead. There is no better way than to accept.

The acceptance before your Maker will relieve you. Make dua’a for forgiveness of the harmed. Make dua’a for the ummah. Make dua’a for yourself.

Just be there.. until serenity blankets you.

and enjoy the beautiful company of you again. Each day. It’s a date.

‚ÄúAnd all of you beg Allah to forgive you, O believers, that you may be successful‚ÄĚ. (Qur’an, 24:31)

IOU Assignments- informations., Islam

Kibr-A Barrier for the Student of Knowledge

KIBR- A Barrier for the Student of Knowledge

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem


Refined manners suit a student of knowledge. Etiquette of a student of knowledge includes :


  • Forbearance: that he is not reckless or quick to retaliate
  • Abstinence
  • Patience with common folk
  • Submission to truth and
  • Expecting reward from Allah alone (Ibn Uthaymeen).


Whoever Allah wishes good for, He gives him knowledge of deen. Therefore, students of knowledge must acknowledge this blessing (Muhammady, 2015)


Lower your wing of humility to Allah

A person setting out to gain knowledge should know that it is a form of worship. His heart must be flood with desire of gaining Allah’s pleasure and humble submission towards Him. This, will make him amongst the honorable ones in both worlds (bin-Baaz, 2014). Slightest pride leads to rejection of worship (Ibn-Hanbal, 2014).


In a narration of Abu Dawood, Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) states that a person who seeks knowledge for materialism rather than to see the face of Allah shall not smell the fragrance of paradise.


Kibr that openly opposes and negates Eemaan results in the banishment of the one who holds it from entering al-Jannah as is found in Allaah’s statement:

‚ÄúAnd your Lord said: ‚ÄúInvoke Me, I will respond to your (invocation). Verily! Those who scorn (yastakbiroon ‚Äď Have kibr) My worship, they will surely enter Hell in humiliation!‚ÄĚ [Surah Ghaafir: 60]

A form of humility before Allah is to fear him and establish Tawheed. Allah promises the muttaqeen forgiveness and great reward. Some salafs termed fear of Allah as absolute knowledge. Ibn Masood (radiallahu anhu) stated that fear of Allah suffices as ilm whereas absence is sufficient ignorance. Possession of ilm is proportional to taqwa. Indeed, Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) was the most fearful of Allah with the maximum taqwa (Bukhari).



Make du‚Äôaa for ‚Äėilm:

Allah promises that He will respond to calls of his servant. To the lowest heaven He comes each night in the last one-third to respond to our supplications (Bukhari)


Ibn Tayyimah used to supplicate by pleading, ‚Äú‚ÄúO teacher of Ibraaheem, teach me! O educator of Sulaymaan, grant me understanding!‚ÄĚ.


Allah commanded Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam): ‚Äú‚Ķand say:, ‚ÄėMy Lord! Increase me in knowledge‚Äô‚ÄĚ (TaHa, 114). Even Ibrahim (alayhis salam) made dua for ilm and righteousness (Ash-shuara, 83).


Lower the wing of humility to creation

The ulama are the inheritors of knowledge from Prophets. Humility before them is essential. Allah warns us how Shaytaan works from all directions to make us amongst the thankless (Al-Araf, 17). 


Kibr is a disease of tyrants (Ibn Uthaymeen). Arrogance and tawheed cannot harvest in the same soul. Feeling superior for performance of any act of worship represents lack of taqwa and understanding of Allah‚Äôs asma was-sifaat. We are reminded of how Qarun, when boasted about being wealthy owing to his ilm, was swallowed by the earth under Allah‚Äôs command (Al-Qasas, 76-78).


A kind of kibr is to despise the people, and to look down upon them. This attitude arises when a person is amazed with his own self, thinks highly of himself, and thinks he is better than others. So this causes him to have kibr towards the creation, despise them, mock them, and to degrade them through both speech and action (As-Sa‚Äôdi). Allaah‚Äôs Messenger sal-Allaahu ‚Äėalayhe wa sallam said:

‚ÄúIt is enough evil for a person to despise his brother Muslim.‚ÄĚ (Sahih Muslim)


A true student of knowledge has reverence of Allah’s greatness and knows nobody can match it. Thus, he mellows down knowing that our esteem comes from none than other Allah(Ibn-Khamis).



Humility of Scholars

Abu Bakr (radiallahu anhu), the best man after Prophets, made du’aa that Allah makes him better than what people perceive him to be, that Allah does not make him accountable for their words and that he is forgiven for things they are not aware of. This du’aa swelled Shaikh Albanee when he was praised by a brother and he broke down saying that he was merely a student of knowledge (Abu Yahyaa).


Abdullah ibn-Umar (Radiallahu anhu) was renowned for his knowledge and piety. He was always cautious of what came out of his tongue. He narrated hadiths of Rusool Allah only if he was confident of remembering every bit of it


Musab bin Umayr (radiallahu-anhu), was from an affluent family but his humility reflects when he chose to give up his wealth for imaan. The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) chose him to be the first ambassador of Islam, to Yathrib. When the chief of the tribe came with fury to shoo them away, Musab instead of retaliating, humbly offered him to listen. He suggested that he may leave if he does not like what Musab and the Prophet had to say. It was a result of this poise, that the chief along with Sa’ad bin Muad and the entire tribe accepted Islam


The four imaams have been known to not treat their words are the final line. Imam Hanifa, did not allow his students to write down his teachings lest he may change his opinion in future. Imam Malik was wary of making his jurisprudence the law of the state during Umayyid dynasty. Nor did he ever haste to speak on matters he had no knowledge of. Imam Sha‚Äôfie also gave in to the fact that there will be many hadith that will be known after him. Thus, he gave preference to the word of Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) as well. 


The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam)

Allah (azza wajal) commanded Prophet (Salallahu alayhi wasallam) to lower his wings and show his gentleness to the believers (Ash-Shuara, 215).


The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasallam) was an epitome of humility. We have narrations where he would sit on the ground, lick his fingers after eating and ride donkeys. He established being humble as his sunnah and who is a better muslim than he who follows the sunnah of Rusool Allah.


He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) would walk down to meet those who were sick. His heart would melt to see the impoverished in distress. So much that he addressed to treat slaves as brothers put under our control by Allah. Kids would climb upon him when he would pray and he would be patient. When he sat with his companions, he looked like a commoner such by-passers had to inquire who Muhammad was from amongst them.


He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) prayed the salah of janazah for a destitute black woman who looked after the mosque. He would accept the most meager invitations and would greet children. A freed slave-woman wanted to divorce her slave-husband trespassing the Prophet‚Äôs advice and Rusool-Allah accepted her choice.


He would not hesitate to move dust and do works of labour with those lesser in status so as to help them. He (salallahu alayhi wasallam) ate as the servant ate, he sat as the servant sat. That was how he address himself as- a servant. 


CONCLUSION (Kibr- A barrier to Paradise)


From ‚ÄėAbdullaah Ibn Mas‚Äôood radi-Allaahu ‚Äėanhu who related that Allaah‚Äôs Messenger sal-Allaahu ‚Äėalayhe wa sallam said:

‚ÄúWhoever has an atoms worth of kibr (pride) in his heart will not enter Paradise.‚ÄĚ So a man said: What about a person who loves (i.e. takes pride in) wearing beautiful clothes and beautiful shoes? So he replied: ‚ÄúIndeed Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty. Kibr (pride) is to reject the truth, and to despise the people.‚ÄĚ